You know I'm really pissed off right now tbh. I've got a friend IRL that I've been friends with since I was 14 but I'm at my breaking point.
I don't think I want anything to do with them anymore.
They've always favored other people and try to look good at my expense by insulting me etc.
Hmm. I should just be quiet sorry.
@Wetrix Remove all negative influences and people from your life. They're not worth the stress and upset it can cause.
Unless it's family. Unfortunately you can't choose them, and sometimes they require a "little" more tolerance.
Hang on in there :).
@gray thx! Yeah even with family if they are toxic I don't have anything to do with them. I mean just because I'm genetically related to them doesn't give them leeway for me 😅 My brother is a good example.
If he wasn't my brother he's the kind of person I can't stand and never associate with. That made my decision with him easy.
@Wetrix I would agree with your sentiment. First, I found that family could cut ties with other family, then experience it happen to me, then I experienced unfair and abusive treatment from family that would expect me to never let go of the "bond". I've ultimately come to the conclusion that blood matters only to those who put power into the concept. It means nothing to those who value self respect...
@Wetrix There's no point in valuing blood if you fully and undoubtedly realize that that very same blood fails to be conscious/aware of how they're making you feel. Toxicity bows to no special type of relationship. Toxicity is objective and absolute with no grey area to justify debate. It all comes down to the feelings and treatment of the parties. If an equilibrium cannot be achieved, then a separation will often be best. Forceful bonds are horrible and can't last for long.
@redcoqui I agree 100%
Just because you have the genetic misfortune of being associated with someone means NOTHING.
The only thing you owe to anyone in this world are the two people that brought you into it out of an act of love.
And even then, if they don't treat you properly you owe them nothing as well.
Anyone can make a child. It isn't unique or special or rare. But it takes a real man to be a father or a real woman to be a mother.