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I have always admired historical figures who avoided revealing their pronouns, (think the first uses of Mx., pen names, Maria Mitchell using the qualifiers "Thy," "Thee") because they avoid immediately sexualizing or pigeonholing the person in question.
But I understand that some of these actions are now taken to empower the LGBTQ+ community;
Would using nonbinary pronouns for the reason of avoidance be hurtful to this community?
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And then when I got into highschool, I started learning about how women's pay is different -
Just having a female name can makes it more likely that you won't get the interview.
I started avoiding indicating what gender I was (as well as age) and got more calls back.
Is avoidance an issue?
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@Lindsaythelibrarian
I worked in the same company with my wife for several years and it was such a big thing there, but I was totally oblivious until she spoke to me about it.
Anytime she had a opinion, colleagues (even female) would seek someone else to confirm. Her ideas would be implemented months after she proposed them, by another person, without mentioning her input.
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@m_svo This makes my heart break 💔
But it's a reality! Thank you for sharing this as well as your own experiences. Not talking about makes me feel crazy for feeling it - I very much agree that there should be more discussions had.
I'm not sure where that puts me though - is ignoring my gender verbally harmful then? Or helpful?
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@Lindsaythelibrarian
Thats a tough question, not sure I can answer that. 🤔
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@Lindsaythelibrarian
And I got a totally different treatment. They would ask my opinion, took it for granted or asked me to check some data myself.
It's crazy then you think of it, this kind of discrimination happens in thousands of places every day, and so many people never notice it.
We definitely need to speak about it more often.
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