Seriously considering this for my next phone.
https://shop.fairphone.com/en/fairphone-3-plus
I'm between it with Android or Ubuntu Touch and one of the Pixels with GrapheneOS
I'm using /e/ for ~2 years and even contributed to it a bit. All listed controversies were basically about "they say degoogled, but not degoogled enough", mostly because LineageOS still has quite a lot of Google code in them. For example you can't remove Google 204 connectivity check... until you implement your own, which /e/ and GrapheneOS did, but LineageOS didn't. GrapheneOS developer is however an arrogant dick, so I've stopped using it and settled with /e/.
You're right about the priorities, which is precisely why I guess neither LineageOS nor /e/ made a big fuss of it. But then you had the wave of people making a whole scandal based on this, humbly described above as "some privacy concerns" π
As for 204, Google gets your IP and User-Agent as minimum, and I agree that people have right not to want to share this with them. And "standing out" assumes you're under DPI, which is a rare threat scenario.
@kravietz
Think you can modify the captive portal stuff, on any device, using adb. I've never tried. @amolith